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Say sorry and make it right

“Sorry” is the start, not the fix — then make it right.

What to learn

After hurting someone or breaking something, own it and take a real action to repair it — not just say the word.

The problem it solves

“Sorry” becomes a magic word to end the trouble, with nothing actually mended.

How to teach it

Teach a child

Walk them past the word to the repair: knocked the tower down, help rebuild it; hurt a feeling, do something kind to mend it. Keep it calm — the goal is repair, not shame. Name it: “Sorry means you’re going to make it right.”

Teach yourself

When you’ve wronged someone, own it plainly and then do the repair — the apology is the opening, the making-it-right is the substance. Words without follow-through teach people to distrust your words.

Tactics that teach it

The Do-Over kid tool

Repair the harm, not just say sorry.

When they’ve caused harm, walk them past the apology to a real repair — rebuild what they knocked over, do a kindness to mend a hurt feeling. Keep it calm, not shaming: the aim is to make it right, which is what turns “sorry” into something people can trust.

Done when

Owns a mistake and takes a real repair action, not just the word “sorry.”

In the framework

Care includes accountability: love is teaching, and a lesson isn’t learned until it’s acted on. The do-over is how “sorry” becomes something real between people.

This lesson lives in Care — one of the four circles of Agency, the engine of everything you do. Read The People Close →

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