Take a “no” without making a deal
Hear a “no” and accept it — feel the feeling without bargaining the boundary away.
Start with a conversation
Before day one, sit down together and show your child this sheet. Make it a team thing you’re doing with them, not to them.
- Name it — “This week we’re learning Take a “no” without making a deal.”
- Ask first — “Tell me what you already know about Take a “no” without making a deal.”
- Set the deal — a little every day for two weeks, and you both color a box each time.
Both adults agree — same script, every day
Say it often — redirect in the moment
Engaging them directly, again and again, is what gets you there faster. Keep these on your tongue all week.
- “Remember — this week we’re working on Take a “no” without making a deal.”
- “Remember Take a “no” without making a deal? Tell me what you know about it.”
- “What did we practice yesterday? Show me.”
- The One Ask Say it once, calm and declarative. If ignored, act — don’t nag.
- Weather the Storm Name the feeling, hold the line, let it pass, reconnect after.