Name your feelings

Put a word to it — a named feeling is one you can handle.

What to learn

Identify and name their emotions — mad, sad, scared, frustrated — instead of only acting them out.

The problem it solves

Big feelings arrive nameless and come out as behavior, because the child has no words for the storm.

How to teach it

Teach a child

Name feelings out loud, theirs and yours: “You’re frustrated the tower fell.” Give them the vocabulary before the meltdown, and after. Naming a feeling helps a child — and an adult — manage it instead of being run by it.

Teach yourself

When emotion surges, name it — “I’m anxious,” “I’m angry” — because a named feeling loosens its grip and buys you a beat before you act. The vocabulary is the first tool of self-regulation.

Tactics that teach it

Name It kid tool

Put the feeling, value, or trade into words — naming makes it choosable.

Have them say it plainly: what they feel, what they value, what this yes costs. Naming a thing pulls it out of the fog and makes it something you can weigh and choose, instead of something that just happens to you.

Done when

Names their feelings in the moment, at least some of the time, rather than only acting them out.

In the framework

Tending your own mind starts with seeing it clearly: naming a feeling is epistemology turned inward, and the first step of managing your inner life. You can’t regulate what you can’t name.

This lesson lives in Self — one of the four circles of Agency, the engine of everything you do. Read Yourself →

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